When Is It Okay To Say No & Mean It?

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Saying yes when you want to feels liberating and free but saying it when you don’t mean it can change your life, the way you see others and yourself. Never say yes just to please others despite your own feelings. Learning how to say no might not be easy but it’s definitely important if you want to live an honest and happy life. There are a lot of situations in which we should absolutely say no if we want to and mean it. I allocated just three of, in my opinion, the most important ones. 

Morals are principles and beliefs concerning right and wrong behavior. We all live by moral values that we learn about since we are born. Recognition of bad and good is the foundation of it. Normal human beings agree on the important questions about morality. Unfortunately there are also people who don’t have a good perception of good and bad. Those kinds of people tend to intrude their opinion as the right one. When you are younger you can easily get swayed and believe that the things that they advocate for are right. When we do something or made a decision we can feel if it’s wrong or right. That’s our conscious telling us that something isn’t right. 

Whenever you get that feeling you can say no and think about it until you are completely sure that this is either bad or good. We are sometimes uneducated about certain things and topics and we tend to say yes and accept them without even knowing the real meaning of them. When something is against you morals it means that it’s in conflict with your believes and the righteousness that the society should live by. You can always say if you don’t think something is right because there are probably a lot of people thinking the same way but they are afraid to say anything. 

It’s easy to get ourselves into situations that are dangerous for us but also for people that are surrounding us. Sometimes people can think about some crazy ideas just for fun which can lead to serious danger. There is a thin line between having fun and acting rashly. Maybe sometimes those kinds of situations won’t turn out badly but it’s never good to try out your luck. When we are young we think that everything our friends suggest is a good idea. Even if you are going to be a “party breaker” you still have the right to say no. If you are truly in situation that can be really dangerous try to talk them out of it. 

There is nothing wrong in being the reasonable one. Every group of friends needs that kind of person. Sometimes those dangerous situations can escalate very quickly and end with drastic consequences. If they still want to do it than it’s on them. You don’t need to take part of it. We should never play games with our life. We all have different perspective of danger. Some of us can easily jump from a high cliff to a rough sea and think it as an adventure and living in the moment while others think about what could happen after you do that. 

I think that being pressured is the most common situation in which a lot of people gave in and accept to do things that they don’t feel comfortable about and would never agree to if they weren’t pressured. Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. It’s something that most of us experienced at least once in our lives. It probably happened in high school or university where you want to fit in and other people think that they can impose their opinion to everyone. 

You absolutely can and should say no wherever you feel like you are being pressured to do or say something. Especially if it’s by the people you consider as your friends. You should never feel afraid that they won’t hang out with you if you say no to for example smoking, drinking alcohol, taking drugs or similar things. So many bad things happened because certain persons gave themselves the right to bully others and make them feel like they need to do something they don’t want to. If you can get out of that company or just put the record straight.

Are you good at saying no?
Have you ever felt pressured to say yes? 

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