How To Be Alone Without Feeling Lonely

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Being alone and being lonely are two complete different things. You can be alone and feel happy with your own company and relaxed but also you can be alone feeling sad and unaccepted. Sometimes we just need a little bit of help to get in that state of loving our time by ourselves and knowing what to do to stop feeling lonely. 

There are different types of loneliness. Some of them can affect you less and some more. It depends on your state of mind and situation that you’re in. The important thing is that you can overcome them all. 

I think that it all starts within us. Within our mind and the picture we made up. Not accepting who you really are and not getting comfortable with your own body and mind is the start of the loneliness. We think that others don’t want to hang out with us or ignore us when in reality we don’t think much about ourselves. We are humans, which makes us social beings, and interaction with other people is important. However it shouldn’t be as important as realizing that sometimes we just need to be alone and that it’s completely normal. I’m aware that it can be harder for some people but we can all try and learn. 

Using that alone time to bring ourselves down is just unnecessary. We should use that time to really focus on our thoughts and learn about ourselves. Try to understand why you feel lonely and how you can work on it. There are so many quality things that you could do by yourself and have fun. 

Constantly thinking about how lonely you are will not help you at all. Even if you maybe want to be surrounded by lots of people try not to think about it. I’m sure that you have a list of things that you want to try out so why not actually trying them. There are so many amazing activities that you can do alone but also maybe even meet some new people and enjoy life. Exploring your city or taking a walk is always a good idea. You’ll learn different things about yourself and how you react in different situations. Maybe there’s a standup comedy show you can to or a new movie you want to see. All of those things you can do by yourself and have the best time ever. 

I think that it’s commonly misunderstood that you can do certain things only with a group of friends or family. Knowing how to have fun and get out of your comfort zone is the best way to learn to lean on yourself and your own company. 

What is the best thing to do when you have an alone time then to try and make it as productive as you can. I’m sure that you have a lot of things you need to get done so why wouldn’t you do it right now. It’ll keep you busy so you won’t have time for negative thoughts and at the end of the day you’ll feel satisfied because you accomplished a lot. You don’t need to do some super big tasks. Maybe you could finally read that book that’s been sitting on your book shelf on way too long or clean a closet from all the clothes that you don’t wear anymore or even bake those chocolate cookies you are dying to try. 

If you’re in school or college then focus on getting good grades and knowledge because they’ll help you in the future to get that job you always wanted and that’ll make your life better. Friends and relationships will come along the way. 

Do you ever feel lonely? 
How do you get out of that mindset?  

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