The way we think ad act has a big impact on our overall life. Sometimes negative mindsets and attitudes find their way into our lives without us even realizing. They are slowly holding us back from all the opportunities we are meant to achieve. Here are the 5 most common mindsets that most of us are familiar with. Some of them you might already overcome but some of them you might not even know are still a part of your life. The good thing is that you can get rid of all of them and I'm sharing with you some of the ways you can do that.
5 MINDSETS THAT ARE CONTROLLING YOUR LIFE
"I KNOW EVERYTHING"
This is one of the most destructive mindsets that a lot of people feel at some point in their life. It usually occurs either when we are young and feels like we are competent in every field there is. This attitude is and can come across as arrogant and egoistic. People who state that they know everything are immediately setting themselves for failure. The fact is that we don't know everything and we probably never will. When we think that we know everything we are closing the doors to knowledge.
There is a thin line in beating confidence in your knowledge and beating arrogant about it. When you are confident in what you know you are not taking away from you the possibility to learn more. When you are arrogant about your knowledge you are not accepting the fact that there is so much more you can learn from others. If you can relate to this attitude than now is the best time to shift your mindset. Know your knowledge but always be open to broadening it and with that, you will see progress in all aspects of your life.
"I DON'T NEED HELP"
As competent and independent we may be, there are always some things that we just can't do alone. It applies both for women and men. This attitude appears when pride blurs our vision. When we think that seeking help means that we are weak. I don't know if this is a cultural or social thing but it has definitely been a part of humankind for a long time. This mindset can lead to mental health issues. We are witnessing destructive cases of mental illnesses every day. It is not strange that these things are happening when we've been thought from a young age that asking for help or crying is a weakness.
When in fact, we should've been thought and we need to teach children and adults that asking for help is a sign of strength. It means that you know yourself and want the best for yourself. Asking help is by any means not an easy thing to do. Just think about how much easier your life would've been if you just asked for help. If you only accepted that sometimes we just need the help of others and that it is not something we should be ashamed of. Asking for help doesn't make you any less independent or competent if nothing else it makes you even more.
"I CAN'T DO IT"
So many inventions never saw the light of day and so many businesses never opened because of this mindset. In the background of this attitude is the emotion that we all feel but not all act the same upon it, FEAR. The fear of trying something new that is making us uneasy and nervous. Another thing that is making this attitude control our life is the fact that we feel like we are not able to accomplish what we want. The lack of trust in ourselves is making us miss out on some of the best moments in our life. One of the ways you can get rid of this attitude is to give yourself more credit. There is no room for self-doubt.
If there is something you want and feel passionate about then just give it a go. I know that the fear of failure is sometimes strong and is trying to push our desire but you just can't let it win. Isn't it just better to try and even if you fail look at it as just another experience from which you can learn? You can do whatever you want as long as you set your mind on it and work hard. Don't let your dreams go in wain just because of the irrational fear. Trust me, you don't want to look back on your life and realize how many opportunities you missed.
"I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH"
How many times have you thought that you are not good enough? This is a similar attitude to "I can't do it". They both stop us from doing what we want the most. In the foundation of "I'm not good enough" are all the insecurities. When you constantly doubt yourself it makes you think that whatever you want you can't get because you are not as good as others. The big part here has a comparison. We tend to compare ourselves with others and accept the mindset that we are never going to be as good as others. The problem starts when we make criteria for different things and place ourselves below the bar.
If you are one of those who constantly think that you are not good enough then this is how you can start to leave that attitude behind. It is all in your mind. Criteria for what it means to be good enough is made in your mind. You are the one who can break it. Ask yourself why you wouldn't be good enough? With every answer that goes in favor of you not being good enough, think about the answer why you in fact are good enough. When you start doing this every time you start doubting yourself it will become a habit. After some time you will immediately come up with the reason you are good enough.
"I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING"
Something that we are missing nowadays is critical thinking. There are so many people out there who just blindly follow those who promote all kinds of ideologies just for their own sake. Following someone or something without giving it a second thought is a sign that you can be easily manipulated. Agreeing with everything that someone says without really thinking about it can lead you to problems. You need to form your own opinion and know exactly why you are accepting something or disagreeing with it. There are a lot of ways to avoid this mindset. The first is to educate yourself.
Knowledge really is power as it makes you realize sooner if something is good or bad. You can make a rational decision and have facts to back it up. It is important to use verified sources. Try to find different perspectives and from that form your own opinion. Some people find it shameful to change the opinion they in the past advocate for. There is nothing to feel shame about changing your mind about something. It is actually praiseworthy that you took into account different opinions and realized that what you thought before might not be true.
Have you noticed any of these mindsets in your life?
What are your tips on getting rid of them?
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